First of all, I know this is a sensitive topic to many of us, myself included, but I felt as though I had to say a few things on the subject after what happened this week.
For those of you who aren't Canadian or who don't follow Canadian news, this week, a BC girl committed suicide after experiencing years of bullying. I'm told there's a YouTube video on the subject, though I haven't watched it myself. I thought I might write a bit on the subject before watching it, because I know that once I watch it, I won't be able to write anything at all.
The first thing I want to address is the terrible comments left on the video. I'm told that there were several comments on the video insinuating she deserved it. The first thing I need to say is that there is no one on the face of this planet that deserves to be bullied. There is no one on the planet that deserves to feel so hopelessly lost and unloved and worthless that they feel the need to take their own lives. There is no one who deserves to feel like suicide is the only way out. I speak from experience on this matter. There have been several times in my life where I have contemplated this myself, some of them rather recently. There have been times where I've sat on the floor of my bedroom with a knife in my hands trying to gather up the courage to do the deed. There have been times where I have been so low that I didn't even have the energy to try, where all I wanted to do was to curl up and die. No one deserves to feel that way, absolutely no one. And no one deserves to feel that way because of something someone else said or did to you. The only person who should affect your self-image is you. It is appalling to me that people can, with a straight face, suggest that this poor girl deserved to be made to feel this insignificant or unimportant. It appalls me even more that these people can fall asleep at night knowing how they're contributing to the plight of children and teens all over the world that question their own self-worth on a daily basis. Were the tables changed I know these same people would be putting together the same incensed words I am right now. It depresses me that people can be so callous and selfish. We are social animals, and social animals are this way for one reason; preservation. Social animals seek protection and safety in numbers, and yet we ostracize, ignore and torture those who most need our protection. There is nothing more than I can say on this topic except this; I am ashamed to be a human being.
Bullying is a cancer on humankind. It spreads like a malignant tumor and infects more and more people each and every day. It's events like this that being this problem to light, but it shouldn't take that. It shouldn't take a young girl taking her own life to get the issue on the news or to get attention on the Internet, just like it shouldn't take a cancer death to raise awareness. Bullying, like cancer or heart disease, doesn't just appear once in a while on the news. Bullying happens all day, every day, which means that people should be aware of the issue all day, every day. If you're reading this and you're a bully, I hope desperately that you see my side of the story, and the story of all the people you've victimized and realized that you are doing much more harm than you could possibly realize. If you are reading this and you are a victim, take heart, for there is an end. The road is long and difficult, but you can persevere. If I can do it, I know that you can. Look to your friends, to your family, to your teachers and counsellors, to help agencies, for there are so many of them. Use those resources, talk about your problem, and realize that the only thing that can truly stop the bullying is you. YOU have all the power. All you need do is take it.